Tuesday, April 24, 2012

How to Respond to Infertility and Loss

It's National Infertility Awareness Week, and Resolve, the national infertility association has issued a challenge to blog about this week to Raise Awareness.  While I'm very fortunate that my issues with fertility are relatively easily treated, the feelings around it are complex for anyone it touches, and don't  necessarily go away when a child joins the family through birth or adoption.  This year's theme for the week is "Don't Ignore Infertility," an  important statement.  But if you can't ignore it, how do you respond to it?

Especially for those who haven't experienced it, it's a hard thing to respond to.  Everyone wants to be a supportive friend, and say the right thing.  Unfortunately, even with the best of intentions, the wrong words can be more hurtful than doing nothing at all.   Questions, suggesting adoption, or saying anything God's plan, said at the wrong time are salt in a very open wound.   The one thing that is appropriate to say when a loved one is facing loss or infertility is very simple.

"I love you, and I'm so sorry."   

Let your loved one lead the conversation from there.  There maybe other ways that you can help, but take your cues from your friend.  What he or she needs more than words is a listening ear and your support.  Less is more, here, and by exercising restraint in your response, you can still strengthen them as they face the challenges of infertility and loss.

Friday, April 20, 2012

Earth Day Ideas

Earth Day is this weekend, and I love that it comes right as Spring has started to come around the corner here in the Northwest.  Here are a few ways we have been/will be celebrating this weekend: 

We read the story of The Creation and colored in this page from Wild Olive.

We planted herbs in eggshells.  Our basil just started peeking through

We'll be building and Earth Day cake like these in a Pyrex Bowl to give it a domed shape, with Cool Whip clouds.  Hints here for baking in a bowl. 

We made cookie cutters bird feeders, though C didn't really like the seeds sticking to his hands.  At all.   Directions here

There are many more ideas on pinterest, and while these are simple and they're not going to save the earth, they'll create interest in the world around us- and at these ages, I think that's a good place to start.  

Will your family be celebrating Earth Day?  Share ideas here! 

Friday, April 13, 2012

{this moment}

{this moment} - A Friday ritual. A single photo - no words - capturing a moment from the week. A simple, special, extraordinary moment. A moment I want to pause, savor and remember.  

Sunday, April 8, 2012


I really like holidays.  There is something nice about acknowledging a day as set apart, as something special that appeals to me.  After the big hubbub of winter holidays, some of these early in the year holidays can seem insignificant and blend together, and I'll find myself thinking, "is it time for that already?"

Easter is different, though.  Even if you don't share the beliefs on the purpose of Easter, I think it's nice to pause and honor new life- in nature and in ourselves- and the hope that spring brings with each new dandelion, daffodil, and tulip.

So, with hope, I welcomed Easter into our home- ready to have a new start at mothering and bring some freshness into our home.  Happy Spring.